Daily Soaps and Cinema have been portraying family toxicity as an unbreakable bond among family members. It has always been filling minds with false and unnecessary expectations.
Where the eldest member of the family takes decisions and tells what is suitable for everyone.
A toxic family dynamic has the pattern of making you feel miserable, unloved, and discouraged. When you come to realize the truth by then your important time has already been gone.
So when was the right time we could have taken a step and spoken up for ourselves?
Here are some scenarios which tell you to cut off from the toxic environment:
- Having Disagreements makes you Out of line person Every Family has occasional disagreements but it does not mean that you can not make your point just because you are a girl or the youngest member of the family. A toxic family will not let you speak against them, whether it is about Politics, clothing choices, Love marriages, Feminism, etc.
- You start to hear This is your fate only Your parents did not graduate and here you are thinking about your higher education. How hardly they managed to let you study at the college of your choice so don't you dare to think about doing a Ph.D. or becoming a research scholar not even on your own because now they are getting older and it's high time to set you up with a suitable boy before they die.
- You are compared to your Lightyears older cousin Just because your cousin blindly got married to the girl he barely knew and has three kids, (All of them are Boys, Wow) You too should get married soon by the age he did. See he is helping his father in the family business why are you thinking of going far away from home, you won't even get to eat the homemade food.
- Threats, Verbal and Physical abuses Threats like Think twice before taking that job otherwise you will see me dead Or Who am I to stop you from following your passion after all family reputation has nothing to do with you, leave you drained. In some cases, families become too aggressive if you take a stand for yourself. From emotionally blackmailing to physically abusing to involve you in matters which suit them.
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